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Post by BarbV on Dec 4, 2014 21:34:07 GMT -5
On top of all the medical problems that I am having right now, my daughter has chosen her partner over me. He doesn't like me and the feeling is mutual and she chose him. She cannot have any contact with me. He goes through her phone and facebook account daily to make sure that she hasn't communicated with me. Needless to say my Thanksgiving wasn't. The bad part is that I was going to take a hand full of my pills just to stop hurting. My hubby bless his heart was able to calm me down and finally give the pills back to him. He now has them under lock and key and that is fine with me. I was just so devastated that my daughter would turn her back on me and even deny me the right to see my grandkids. I am coping but I still need prayers to help me through. Thank you all. Merry Christmas.
Love Barb
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Post by omieka on Dec 4, 2014 21:55:26 GMT -5
Blows from family are the hardest to bear Barb. I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. I will keep you in my prayers. Sometimes the only thing we can do is let go and move on with our life. I hope you can do that over time. It does make holidays especially painful. Do take care of yourself.
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Post by GramaAnNachos (RIP) on Dec 4, 2014 22:13:33 GMT -5
Oh that is hurtful Barb, I'm so sorry your having to go though this... I'll keep you and your family in prayer... Hugs and God Bless... GB
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Post by Betsy (RIP) on Dec 4, 2014 22:22:18 GMT -5
I'm very sorry to hear this Barb. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Sending hugs your way.
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Post by Anita on Dec 4, 2014 22:23:46 GMT -5
Barb, my oldest daughter did the same thing to me 17 years ago. I have 3 grandkids from her, but she chose a man and life I didn't approve of, but never said much to her about it as it is her business not mine, but she told me I no longer had a daughter and no grandkids. Neither her or the grands have spoken to me since. I know how badly it hurts, but you can't do anything about it.
Please don't do anything foolish because she isn't the one you will hurt. It will be your husband and other family members who do need you . Just take one day at a time and just pray for her because she is the one who needs them most of all.
My prayers are with you.
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Post by flopsie on Dec 4, 2014 23:15:00 GMT -5
My prayers are with you as well. Our children so often make bad choices that only hurt them in the end. You love her and she knows it , and one day when she needs that love she will come to you and you will be there for her, in the meantime be supportive of her...she will always remember that.
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Post by LadyJane on Dec 4, 2014 23:22:43 GMT -5
Barb, I know it's tough. I barely get along with my mother, but I don't think I'll ever stop her from having contact with her grandkids. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just hope it doesn't last long as he sounds abusive to me. I'll definitely be praying for her and you.
It's sad your daughter would even allow him to have that much control. My son just told me that if it would help, he can pretend to be your grandson. He was peering over my shoulder.
Please don't do anything rash. It would only make those who do love you, sad and lonely. Just concentrate on those who love you and maybe she'll come to her senses.
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Post by Huronna on Dec 4, 2014 23:54:58 GMT -5
Thanks heavens for your husband.
Give him the biggest hug for me.
it's a sad situation, and I'm sorry you are going through this.
Maybe in time she will wake up...we can hope can't we?
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Post by Holly1928 on Dec 5, 2014 0:53:14 GMT -5
Barb, it's a hard lesson to learn but we can't control anything but ourselves. Your job is to, as someone said, remember that what you do affects your husband and anyone else who loves you. I hope that you will be able to put this hurt away for a while and concentrate on your health and living day-to-day.
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Post by silk on Dec 5, 2014 2:09:59 GMT -5
I am so sorry Barb. This must be very painful. My prayers and thoughts are with you. I am thankful your husband is being strong for you. ??
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Post by BarbV on Dec 5, 2014 9:41:44 GMT -5
Thank you for all your kind words of encouragement. It is very hard but I am stepping back and thanking the family I do have for being there for me. Huronna, I have been giving him hugs and will give one more huge hug and tell him it is from you. LadyJane tell your son thank you for me, it was so nice of him to offer. I am trying very hard to keep the old head up and take just one day at a time. Again, thank you all and I love you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2014 9:49:29 GMT -5
Family issues are bad, and I am sending Hugs & Prayers your way Barb. Thanks goodness, you have a very supportive hubby, that means so much! |
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Post by Flagryl on Dec 5, 2014 10:10:52 GMT -5
I am so sorry you are going through this. But wonderful you have such a supportive hubby. I do hope time will give some perspective and feelings change and heal. Hugs to you and your hubby.
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Post by steve on Dec 5, 2014 12:00:05 GMT -5
Dear Barb, please try to keep calm and thank God you have a husband that really cares about you. I am also hoping your daughter will wake up one day and get in touch with you. Do pray to God to help help understand what she is doing and always, always forgive her.That is what I do for people who do hurt me. I ask God to forgive them cause they do not know what they are doing!!! It works!! I feel so calm after that. Try it!! it works. Trust me.
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Post by Lainey on Dec 5, 2014 13:14:06 GMT -5
Oh Barb What a silly silly girl she is, does she not realise how special Mothers are? she is loosing special time with you. I can only agree with what has been said already to you by the others, especially giving your husband another hug.
Remember there is always hope and I will tell you something that happened when my some who is now 46 was younger.
He was about 19 and picked up with a girl from a not nice area, a friend that was a police officer saw them together and warned me that she was a drug taker and used to deal as well.
I told my son who had gone to live with her my concerns, but they say love is blind and he took no notice and must have said something to her and she told him not to visit us.
To get to the point it took time but finally he saw her for what she was, luckily he never got caught up in the drug scene. He was sat in the living room one morning when we got up and asked could he stay a few days (all his stuff was already in old bedroom.)
It was 3 years before he moved out again to share a flat. LOL!
Your daughter has to see how manipulative he is and it will get worse not better. When that day comes expect that knock on the door and welcome her with open arms.
I will keep you in my prayers sweetheart.
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Post by Smilyn on Dec 5, 2014 15:40:28 GMT -5
 (((((Barb))))) I cannot imagine how you are feeling, this is not just an awful thing but awful timing as well. I'm keeping you and her and the children and your personal hero close in heart and mind. Please keep breathing in and out and watching the sun rise each day and holding onto your hope and your faith. You are a beautiful person and you are deeply loved. Just hang on and know that you are not alone. |
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Post by tramp on Dec 6, 2014 15:58:05 GMT -5
Barb I left you a present at the zone. (Friday's Auction Lot #6)
Hope your new angel keeps her wings wrapped tight around you. Remember those who love you.
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Post by delia62 on Dec 6, 2014 21:58:33 GMT -5
Barb i am so sorry to hear this & agree with everyone that has posted here. My thoughts & Prayers are with you Darling & i hope one day she will see this man for what he is & leave him.
Big hugs to you
Delia
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Post by BarbV on Dec 7, 2014 12:37:42 GMT -5
Thank you so much for the support. I told my husband about all the hugs sent his way and he was like...you told them what you almost did??..I said yes they are like family and I knew I could count on you all for support. I love you all so much. Tramp I got my angel and she is beautiful. She will be with me always. Thank you.
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Post by BarbV on Dec 10, 2014 13:14:08 GMT -5
I just wanted to let you all know that prayers do work. My daughter still won't speak to me but she allowed my grandson to call me on my birthday on Monday and then yesterday I got her permission to call him for his and was able to speak with my granddaughter too. I am so happy right now. Thank you all so much.
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Post by Betsy (RIP) on Dec 10, 2014 13:36:44 GMT -5
Awesome! That's a start. Your daughter may come around yet.
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Post by GramaAnNachos (RIP) on Dec 10, 2014 15:20:00 GMT -5
Aw I'm so happy for you Barb, its a start of hopefully of something better... I have 3 daughters and I'm so blessed they married wonderful men who love them and us too... Each day I pray and thank God for them... Nothing makes me happier than my daughters being happy... I really felt your pain and cried when I first read your post and so thankful you have a loving hubby who looks after you... I will keep you in prayer and pray for God help your daughter to see that man for what he really is and let you back in her life again...
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Post by omieka on Dec 10, 2014 18:47:40 GMT -5
That is a great start Barb. Over time more may come your way.
How wonderful to have a hubby who takes such good care of you.
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Post by mimi on Dec 10, 2014 20:27:47 GMT -5
God bless you.
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Post by Flagryl on Dec 10, 2014 21:02:47 GMT -5
Terrific, that's wonderful and I'm truly happy for you!
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